by Special Guest: Jim Comer When we are parenting our parents, it is only natural to dip into the past. The old days are familiar territory and we feel safe there–as long as we are careful which memories to unwrap. While the past may be comforting, don’t neglect the possibilities of the present. History isn’t something that happens to someone else. Everyone has stories worth telling and memories that should be shared.
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by Special Guest: Dr. Mara Karpel, PhD Dear Dr. Karpel: My children accuse me of being negative and pessimistic. They say I always “see the glass as half empty.” I’m 67 and I feel that I’m realistic. I have several chronic illnesses and have had a hard life. What is there to be positive about? I’m writing to you at the insistence of my daughter, who wants me to ask if there’s any truth to the idea that my negativity may be the cause of some of the During the last couple of days I’ve been staying with a family, spending time with their mother. Throughout this time a lot has been going on and based on my observations, our discussions and their preferences, the family has decided she will be going to a personal care home tomorrow. Most people talk about independent living, assisted living and nursing home communities and many prefer the bigger institutions for a variety of reasons. For those who don’t, there is another long term living arrangement not often Just some random thoughts regarding our parents, aunts and uncles, grandparents and all the people we love who we ‘know’ are aging but …
~ We come up with all kinds of reasons why they are not the same as they used to be. The ones I hear the most are “he’s just being stubborn “oh she can hear you;” “he can do it, he just doesn’t want to;” “she’s never listened to me;” “she likes to stir things up;” “she really does remember;” “he’s given up;” and many more. But it’s true we say and to a point it is. ‘Where is Mom Going to Live?’ is one of the topics about which I speak.
During the last couple of days I’ve been staying with a family, spending time with their mother. Throughout this time a lot has been going on and based on my observations, our discussions and their preferences, the family has decided she will be going to a personal care home tomorrow. |
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