![]() by Special Guest: Worth Kilcrease The following is an excerpt of a letter Edgar Allen Poe wrote on January 4, 1948 after his wife died: “You say—‘Can you hint to me what was the terrible evil’ which caused the irregularities so profoundly lamented?” Yes; I can do more than hint. This ‘evil’ was the greatest which can befall a man. Six years ago, a wife, whom I loved as no man ever loved before, ruptured a blood-vessel in singing. Her life was despaired of. I took leave of her forever & underwent all the agonies of her death. She recovered partially and I again hoped. At the end of a year
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![]() In January 2008, I interviewed Khris Ford, Licensed Professional Counselor and founder of My Healing Place in Austin, Texas. She is an adjunct instructor at the University of Texas at Austin School of Social Work, where she teaches graduate level courses in grief and loss counseling. She is also a bereaved parent, and it is her personal experience of transformative grief following the death of her son, Stephen, in 1989 that fuels her passion for work in the field of grief, loss, and trauma. Khris, what got you into the work you are doing? I think what got me into the work, really, is a lifetime of life losses. I lost siblings as a child, my father abandoned us and I grew up curious about the fact that I saw some people ~~~~~~~ In support of Miste~~~~~~
I received an email today from someone who is losing her dog. Animal lovers understand the anguish this woman is in right now. Grief is grief no matter the loss. We know old grief rides the new waves. We know comfort comes in being heard and feeling understood and being in the presence of those who care. “…yeah, you’re pretty normal…” Whew. He’s so sweet; I think he really means it.
I spoke with my friend and colleague, Worth Kilcrease, last night and asked him if he thought I was grieving appropriately and what he thought of how the popular press and most pros in every helping profession have interpreted Kubler-Ross’ work. ELISABETH KUBLER-ROSS wrote the book that described a model she created to share with the world her understanding of the phenomenon that happens when a person receives catastrophic news.
“On Death and Dying” has been misinterpreted ever since to be a book about the ‘stages of grief.’ The stages of grief have caused so much confusion and insecurity and shame from people who are grieving; people feel they aren’t grieving |
AuthorIn fall 2014, I moved some old blog posts here that I had written years ago from 2007 to 2010. Hope they are helpful. Archives
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